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The list. Everyone has one when they’re looking for a mate. But what most people don’t know, this “list” is the reason why you haven’t found one yet.

You have to be humble. Don’t demand for a person to have a college degree if you don’t have one yourself. You’re unemployed yet your mate has to make 6 figures a year? That’s not fair at all. There’s a difference between preferences and bullshit demands. Don’t demand what you can’t bring to the table as well. It’s also very rare that you’ll find the “perfect” person. If your list of the perfect person has 10 items on there, aim for 7 out of the 10. It’s very rare that you get all 10. And even if you were to get all 10, there’s going to be an unlisted flaw that you will have to look over. Everyone has flaws. You have flaws. Maybe if you look over the small things, you’ll see the bigger picture. Then you will be able to accept a person for who they are, and not for what they have.

Unrealistic expectations. What makes the search for companionship a headache is expecting way too much from someone. Quit expecting the best out of someone if you’re not at your best. Especially in relationships. Men complain about not being able to find the right woman, yet the first thing they look for in a woman is her ass or tits. Then you got our women, trying to find Mr. Right by checking out what type of car he drives or his bank account. You are going backwards and destroying it for the deep soul seekers out there. You’re always looking for the perfect relationship, but you end up looking for the wrong qualities to fulfill one. The goal is to find that perfect someone who will make our lives a better place to be. Not a better place to “look at”. Superficial things are only good for admiring. And not for nothing, big tits, big ass, big dick, big elbows, big eyebrows, big money, big ears will run it’s course and will not matter when it comes down to upstanding a healthy relationship, being a great parent, or even merely keeping someone interested in you. It’s unfortunate that we don’t realize “perfection” runs two ways. In order to find that perfect somebody, we must believe that, whatever “perfect” is, we have already achieved it. No one can give us what we don’t already have. Mr. or Mrs. Right can’t be to us what we’re not. If we’re unhappy, unfilled, not pleased about who we are (ie: low self-esteem, insecurities & etc.) we owe it to ourselves to stop looking.